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Jan-4-2018

Just Making Up Stories

Posted by Tim under Personal

(This post is adapted from something I previously put on Facebook)

In his book, Clear Leadership, author Geravase Bushe explains that we are wired to make sense of the world around us. We are meaning-making machines. We want, we need facts that help us understand what is happening in our world.

In the absence of facts, we start to fill in the gaps of our knowledge with stories that make sense to us. The stories we tell ourselves then take on meaning and become the reality in which we live.

This happens to all of us on a daily basis. A friend doesn’t speak to us at the water cooler at work. We wonder what the problem is. We start looking around inside our heads for scenarios that make sense. We settle on, “they are made at me for something I said yesterday.” We think about it. We analyze it. We decide it makes sense. And that becomes our reality. We don’t have all the facts, like the fact that they just received a phone call that a loved one is in the hospital in another state and not expected to live. They are preoccupied with their problem of whether or not to take off work and travel the 800 miles to see this person before they die, or wait and attend the funeral. No. We are settled on the “fact” that is about something we said.

There are two things we have to understand about this storytelling we do to ourselves according to Bushe. First of all, nearly all of the stories we make up are negative. Second, nearly all of them are wrong. But that story is now our reality, and we begin to feel badly toward someone over a story that has no basis in real facts. Yet, it is a settled reality in our minds.

When my wife and I would discuss problems with our children, or between ourselves, or about things at work, we began to change our vocabulary after discussing this book. We went from “this is what is happening,” to “the story I’ve made up is this.” It seemed more honest, and demonstrated an understanding that we don’t have all the facts, the story is negative, and the story is probably wrong.

This happens many times in news reporting. They are so quick to get a story on the air, yet they don’t have all the facts. It leaves people wanting to know more, and so they make it up. In newspapers, this kind of reporting may get one or two news cycles, then it drops off the face of the earth (thank goodness). But in a 24-hour news broadcast on television, they bring in all kinds of analysts who do one thing: they make up stories about what might have happened. And, depending on where your predisposition for belief lies (MSNBC or Fox News are two polar examples), you will believe whatever scenario is being shared even though it is totally made up, negative, and probably wrong.

It happens in our classrooms as well. Johnny acts out in class. We don’t know why he is doing this, and we don’t have time to be a psychologist. So we make up a story. Johnny is being disrespectful and needs to suffer some consequence for his actions. That story is negative and probably wrong. We never stop to think about other possible scenarios: Did Johnny get enough sleep last night? Did he get into an argument with his parents before school? Did he break up with his girlfriend, or did she break up with him? Is his grandmother ok? Did one of his parents lose his or her job? Did he lose his home? Is he being abused in some way?

No. It is far easier to just decide that the reality is Johnny is disrespectful, so he must be sent to the office.

In order to change the way we interact with one another, we are going to have to change the way we think about the behavior of others. A good place to start is to be honest with ourselves. Saying to yourself, “The story I’ve made up is _______. I know it is negative, and it is probably wrong, but it is the first thing that made sense to me” is a good habit to begin in this process.  Then, take time to investigate the facts before you settle on a reality. Otherwise, you’re just making up stories.

If you would like to read more about this principle, click this link. Over the picture of the book, click “Look Inside,” and go to page 19.

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Jan-3-2018

When You Think It’s All Gone Wrong…

Posted by Tim under Personal

I’m just finishing up a week’s vacation planned around doing some photo walks and taking pictures. When I set it up, I had these delusions of grandeur about how this would all work out.  I could not have been more wrong.

The weather was a total bust. Gray, dreary skies with no clouds meant meaningful landscapes are out. Then it rained. And I forgot to wipe off my camera lens during the drizzle, so an entire morning of photos turned out useless. But no problem right? Just move indoors. That’s when the freeze hit. Roads were shut down. I spent 2 days in my hotel room.

As a result, I’m going back home with just a handful of mediocre pictures that have little context or intrigue. It would be easy to chalk this up as a total bust where everything that could go wrong did.

But it’s not.

I got one really clear, handheld panorama shot using a new technique I found on YouTube. This is something I’ve been struggling with for a long time, and I think I may have finally started down the right direction.

And I concentrated more on my focus technique than “wow” shots. As a result, my images are more tack sharp than they’ve ever been before. They may not be great images, but they are incredibly focused pictures. And that counts for something.

It was like this when I was a Christian Servicemen’s Center Director in Scotland and England. On more than one occasion I would end a sermon and feel that I simply failed to connect. I missed the point. It had no clear ending with any meaning. And then, while chatting with people after the service more than one would come up and tell me how much the message spoke to them, or how it fit where their life is right now. I thought the evening was a bust, but…

It is the same in our classrooms. We are constantly connecting with kids in ways we cannot even imagine. Even on those days when our lesson plans get thrown out the window, or that kid acted out again, or the laptop crashed, or the SMART Board bulb blew, or the myriad of other things that can, and do, go wrong on any given day.

As a teacher, you are making a difference in the lives of children that often goes unseen at the time. You may feel like you failed to connect. Sometimes you can’t judge your effectiveness by a classroom full of kids. Sometimes you have to look at the one. Look at the one student that simply needed you to show up today. Look at that student who needed the positive 30-second feedback you gave them and left the class standing just a little taller as a result.

When you think it has all gone wrong…it didn’t. Don’t lose sight of that.

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Dec-19-2017

What You Can Learn From a Headshot

Posted by Tim under Personal

Recently, my yearbook photo was published online. It looked fine in the yearbook. It looked like every other faculty picture, so it fit its environment. But it looked awful in the context in which it was published. You’ll see that image on the left below. My shirt is almost the same color as the background. (Don’t pay any attention to its blurry-ness. That’s a by-product of stretching it to make it the same size as the one on the right). My smile is mediocre. It looks washed out and tired.

So a friend of mine, Stephanie Richer, suggested I get some new headshots made. It was the right suggestion at the right time, so I did. And here is what I learned.

Obviously, a yearbook photo is a photo-mill where you sit for less than 30 seconds, get told to turn your head slightly downward and to one side. A couple of photos are taken…and boom…you are dismissed for the next person. They look homogenous, and taken as a whole on a yearbook page, they work out okay.

A professional headshot is different. The photographer wants the finished product to not only be the best representation of his or her client, but also of their own work. The professional photographer tries to make sure the surroundings are somewhat unique and aligns with your personality or style.

The yearbook photo usually has two umbrella-style soft box lights used to both light you and the screen behind you. We don’t want any shadows. Everything is lit equally, and the background appears to be pretty much as in focus as your face.

The professional headshot takes lighting entirely differently. There is a soft box light off to one side in the front. It is set up light one side of your face, but allow the other to fall into shadow a bit. There is a reflector placed just below you to bounce some light back up onto your face and take out some of the heavy shadows of your chin or nose. And a light over your back shoulder to help separate you from the background that falls off into a heavy blur in order to truly highlight what the photo is about…your face.

The yearbook pose is “sit here, turn your body to the right, turn your face back toward me, down a little, and smile.” Snap. Done.

The headshot is quite different. I was sitting on a bar stool. I had to learn my entire body as far forward as I could toward the soft box light while putting my hands slightly behind my back. Then, I stretched my neck forward and tilted my head slightly. It was not a natural pose. It was a bit uncomfortable. But the camera catches something entirely different and it looks amazing even with an older gray-haired guy in the shot.

The yearbook photo is “smile.” It looks forced. It looks flat. It looks a bit uncomfortable.

The headshot is “I need to get you to laugh, because that looks like a  much more natural smile through the lens.” And laugh I did. Stephanie is quick-witted with a great sense of humor, and I was laughing in spite of myself. And, as long as you don’t laugh with your eyes closed, it looks like a very natural smile. (I chose a different picture for the comparison here in order to have a more even look across both images).

And here’s my take away. You’ve been very patient to wait for it.

In the classroom, everyone doing the same thing from class to class may be effective if you are trying to work on a factory model of education. But the bottom line is that it is flat, forced, and fake. It won’t have the impact for which you hope.

To teach, to teach effectively, one must be individualized. And a bit uncomfortable in the process. You need to be stretched. Contorted. And pushed to do things you ordinarily would not do. Kids relate to that like the camera lens relates to weirdly contorted poses.

Yearbook photos have their place. In yearbooks. Don’t be a yearbook photo in the classroom. Be your own personal headshot. The difference will amaze you.

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Oct-23-2017

Live to See

Posted by Tim under Personal

It is always interesting to me how two people can witness the same events and come away with totally different stories about what happened. Watching the same movie. Watching the same TV show. Watching the same presidential speech. Reading the same book. Reading the same news article. Reading the same Tweets.

It all comes down to the lens through which we view the world. And that lens changes over time. And no two lenses are the same.

I was raised in the North by Southern parents. That’s a lens. I was raised in a fairly conservative Pentecostal tradition. Movies were bad. Drinking was bad. Smoking was bad. At one time chewing gum was bad. That’s a lens. I went to an all-white elementary school.  That’s a lens. I attended our church college. That’s a lens. I was married with a child at 19. A college drop-out. That’s a lens. I’ve lived in Indiana, Illinois, South Carolina, Arkansas, Tennessee, Florida, Scotland, and England. Those are all lenses that impact the way I view the world.

I was once the Christian Education Director for both the Protestant and Catholic chapels at RAF Mildenhall in England. Definitely a lens! I’ve been married twice and divorced twice. Lenses. I have three daughters and zero sons. Each one changes the focus of my lens a bit. I came into education at age 42. A lens.

You get the idea. You’ve got your own unique life experiences that give you a particular lens through which you see the world. Some lenses are empathetic. Some are hostile. Some fearful. Some bold. Some conservative. Some liberal. Some gay. Some straight. Some religious. Some not so much so.

So, when you read things on social media, or watch things in the news, or read the papers, understand that no one has exactly the same take on that information that you do. It does us no good to lash out at people who see things differently from us. It does no good to call people names, or threaten, or refuse to listen.

Each encounter we have that is different from our own worldview helps us focus our lens a little better. A little differently. Refusing to allow others to impact us leads to the macular degeneration of our worldview. It becomes myopic. Covered in cataracts. And soon, we are blind.

Live to see.

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Mar-30-2017

You’re Killin’ Me, Smalls!

Posted by Tim under Personal

Most of us of a certain age probably remember the movie, The Sandlot. It was an irreverent look at a sandlot baseball team made up of misfits who eventually come together and make something great of their team. Reminiscent of The Bad News Bears, it made us laugh at the uncomfortable situation of knowing these children were acting and talking like adults often do. After laughing, often times we might even be embarrassed by the fact we found something funny.

Because, you know, if that were my kid, it would not have been funny at all. And he may not have survived to play another year.

But it wasn’t my kid.  It was somebody else’s kid. It was somebody else’s problem. We could laugh at the words of these foul-mouthed youngsters because they were going home to some other parents.

It’s a fine line for teachers. Elementary teachers often have 25 to 30 kids in their classrooms that are theirs, but yet they are not theirs. Middle school teachers might have 125 to 150. Some high school teachers have nearly 200.

While they are in our classrooms, we expect them to act like they are our kids. Our rules. Our norms. Our expectations. And yet, a small group of students don’t do anything of the sort. They act out. They can appear to be hurtful and cruel and unfeeling and often seem to totally lack empathy.

It is interesting as a teacher observer to watch students in the classroom. I’m somewhat detached from the goings on. Just a fly on the wall. If a kid acts out, I have the freedom to sit back and figure out the why of her actions. Was she just hit by another student? Was she ignored by the teacher? Did someone take her backpack? Did someone invade her personal space by touching her arm with their finger?

Teachers are busy. They are juggling 17 balls, 8 plates, and 3 very sharp knives all at once all day. They can easily miss the cause of the behavior and focus only on the after effects. And, just like that, the student who was actually a victim becomes the villain. Hallway talks take place. Office referrals are sent. Parent phone calls are made.

I know. I was once in that position and making mistakes with kids all the time. Dealing with these behaviors, and their root causes, is something it takes most teachers several years to master. A few are naturals. But not all. Not by a long shot.

I struggled with classroom management as a new teacher. At the end of my first year, my principal basically said, “Childers, I’ll give you the summer to figure it out. But if it is like this next year, there won’t be a third.” Not exactly helpful, but at least it was motivating. And I figured it out. Mostly.

While I’m observing teachers I watch with more than a little envy while some of them just seem to have kids eating out of their hands. They’ve made that all-important connection. Kids that misbehave everywhere else calm down and do what is expected in this one class. I long to be like that as a teacher. As an administrator. Heck, even as a dad.

Two quotes have guided a lot of my in-class practice.  The first is from that same administrator I mentioned earlier.  He was quite fond of saying, “If you can’t control them, you can’t teach them.” And the second comes from my first Christian education textbook. “If the student hasn’t learned, you haven’t taught.”

Me? I’m better known by one of the more famous the quotes from The Sandlot.

You’re killin’ me, Smalls!

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Mar-25-2017

Let’s Really Think About This

Posted by Tim under Personal

Teaching is one of the most stressful careers you can choose. You could list a million reasons why, but I want to concentrate on just one: the work is never done. If you are a teacher, you know that you live, eat, breathe, sleep, and caffeinate about this job all the time. It…just…never…ends.

This is why teachers don’t last too long in the profession at times. They probably thought, as I did, “How hard can this be? You talk to kids all day. They do stuff. You spend a few minutes grading a handful of papers. And you get crayons.”

Yeah. OK.

The truth is, teachers typically get to work thirty minutes to an hour before their contract time. Why? Well, for one, it’s quiet. There isn’t a line stacking up to use the copy machine. You can enjoy that last cup of really hot coffee before you drink all the cold cups later.

OK, that’s part of it.

But in reality, there are students coming in early for tutoring. And you know your planning period is going to be taken up with an IEP meeting, or a PLC meeting, or a parent conference, or a curriculum meeting, or…

You spend the day corralling kids, dealing with drama (sometimes from the teachers), talking Johnny in the hallway about why it is important that he pay attention in class in spite of his ADHD, being evaluated by an administrator, waiting another hour before class is over so you can take 45 seconds and run to the restroom, return phone calls to parents wanting to know why Suzy got a 93 on her paper instead of the 98 she deserved, and on and on.

Let’s not even talk about bus duty, after school programs, evening meetings, required professional development hours and more.

At night, you get home, try to spend some time with the family, eat dinner, maybe watch 30 minutes of news to cheer you up, and then start in on grading papers, planning the next lesson or unit, reading the book your administrators assigned to all teachers, and more. You fall into bed and lay there wondering what tomorrow will look like until you finally wear yourself out enough to sleep.

There is no end to the work.  We work when we get up.  We work through the day. We work at night. We work on weekends. We work, work, work. And, after awhile, we get tired of the work.  We’re stressed out. Our health suffers.  We burn out. And we suddenly dread the very job that breathed life into our existence just a few short years earlier.  Why? Because the work is never done.

Now, think about our students. Many get up way too early, stand out in the dark to catch a bus that takes an hour to get to school, and then slog their way through 7 hours of a work day. After that, they take another hour to get home, or perhaps they get picked up by a parent an hour or two after school because of tutoring or clubs or sports or…

They scarf down dinner, and then they sit down to do the homework assigned by their overworked, overstressed, overly tired teacher. Some of our high school students state they go to bed at midnight or later because of the amount of homework they have to do for AP classes, Honors classes, and more.

Our kids come to school tired, frustrated, stressed, and worn out. They feel like the work is never done.

Sound familiar?

“But wait!” I hear you say. “My homework should only take 30 minutes!” That may be true, but the teacher across the hall also gave 30 minutes, and the one in the section across campus gave 30 minutes, and another gave 30 minutes.  So now, with an hour to school, 7 in school, and hour home, and 2 hours minimum homework, we’re up to 11 hour work days.

And that doesn’t count the homework we assign over the weekends (many don’t…thank you) or the work they must be over fall, winter, or spring breaks.

Is it any wonder our kids have grown tired of school? We don’t want to be there at times because our workload never ends. Our kids often don’t want to be there for the exact same reason.

Should homework be abolished? I don’t think so. I think it should be meaningful. Drill and kill is never meaningful. Ever. Filling in empty spaces on a worksheet (I mean, really, worksheets??) isn’t meaningful.

So, let’s really think about this. Your thoughts are greatly welcomed.

 

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Mar-20-2017

Do Kids Need Teachers?

Posted by Tim under Personal

This is the question that will be asked over and over again in the coming years: do students need teachers? If you look to government funding of education, you might be convinced that the government doesn’t think we’re all that necessary. If you look at the drop-out to poverty to prison pipeline, you might be convinced we need more teachers than ever.

While my simple answer to my own question is yes (I’ll just get that out up front), my more complicated answer is, “Not always.”

I think this was brought more clearly into focus for me after a coupe of recent events. First, Sir Ken Robinson talked about all the heavy lifting learning toddlers do to learn to speak as part of a language formation. Parents may sit in front of their infants an coo, “Say dadda,” or, “Say momma.” But the reality is that while children do learn some of their language by parroting their parents or siblings, they make the great leap from word comprehension to sentence structure and meaningful conversations on their own.  And, depending on where they live in the world, they will do this in very different languages. At times, in multiple languages. In fact, most of our learning happens by age 5 or 6 as the brain forms synapses and dendrites to store and carry meaningful information. Curiosity is a great teacher.

Second, I’ve been tinkering with the Enlight app on my iPhone. I like to take pictures with my phone. Yes, I’m one of those that bought the iPhone 7 Plus for the camera. When I’m eating out along, or just sitting around the house, I like to go back to some of those pictures and use an app, or five, to edit them in certain ways. The Enlight app allows me to mix two images together in much the same way that Photoshop does. (I’ve been having a lot of fun using the twins from The Shining). But it is not totally user friendly until you play around with it. In fact, the tutorials offered by the developing company are a bit useless.  So, trial and error is the way to go. And that takes determination.  What some might call grit today.

These two things, curiosity and determination, are natural parts of the lives of some students. It can be the difference between the student struggling with Algebra 2 and another who takes five AP classes as independent study and scores 5’s on all the exams.

Sometimes it isn’t the teacher.  Sometimes it’s the student.

Yes, I am a firm believer that all children can learn. In fact, all children do learn. But some students are happy about it (that was me), and others have to be pushed forward often against their will. In fact, while this isn’t the point of this post, one could easily argue that some students need teachers just to be a positive adult role model in their lives.

Technology has the potential to do a lot of things to help our students learn. Using it for taking tests is not it. But utilizing technology to inspire curiosity could be the game changer.

Technology can also do a lot of the instructional heavy lifting. No longer is it necessary for a teacher to stand in the front of the room and lecture about every thing a student needs to know. That 20 minute lecture can be boiled down to 5 minutes of video with additional resources for the student to explore on her own. And that works great for adults. We’re still experimenting to see how well it works with kids whose frontal lobes are underdeveloped and often lack the critical thinking and logic that says inside their heads, “You have to stop playing this video game now and get back to that lesson.”

Teachers can help with the curiosity part. In fact, they can drive it with great content and delivery. But the drive to succeed is much more difficult to teach.

Do kids need teachers? Yes. But not always.

The tricky part for teachers is to know when you’re needed and when you need to get out of the way and let the learning happen.

It’s kind of like that for parents, too. But that’s an entirely different post.

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Mar-16-2017

An Open Letter to Sir Ken Robinson #MACUL17

Posted by Tim under Personal

Dear Sir Ken,

I hope it is OK if I call you Sir Ken. It seems rather friendly for someone I just met today, but then you may be one of the friendliest people I’ve come across. It was an honor to meet you, however briefly, but even more so because I found you to be utterly down to earth and, might I say, humble.

I enjoyed my short talk with you immensely. You weren’t interested in sharing more of your tremendous insights into education and pedagogy (to which I would have eagerly attended). Instead, you wanted to know about my job, if I felt the school I was at was being successful, why I drive 90 miles one way to work, and the general well-being of my mother. You even offered to add one more viewer to my own TEDx Talk (I’m a few views shy of 300 million, but then it’s only been up a few months). And, in case you forgot my last name, here is a link to the video.

I wanted to share with you a thought that went through my head while you were talking today. It was during the time when you were discussing how children learn to talk without a teacher, the general model of education to which we have seemingly become addicted, and how reform hasn’t really worked.

My education background prior to being a public school teacher was in Christian education. We’ve experienced a lot of reform movements in the Church. Years ago I read a book by Gilbert Bilezikian titled, “Community 101: Reclaiming the Local Church as a Community of Oneness.” In that book (which I read while serving as a Christian Servicemen’s Center Director at RAF Mildenhall, a place you might know), Dr. B talked about the original model of the Church being one of community where everyone came and offered something to the setting of worship. For some it might be a prayer. For others a song. Others a word of edification. In all, the Gifts of the Spirit were free to operate, and the Church grew quickly.

As you said about public education, it was personal. It was local. It was cultural. And it was social.

Somewhere along the line, people started doing stupid things.  The Church was not operating as it should.  In Dr. B’s words, it was sick. The Apostle Paul then gave an admonishment to the Church that they should no longer be led by a group of people who were abusing the Spirit’s work.  Instead, they should choose one man of good report to be the “up front” person. He would direct things. And, it worked. The Church regained some focus, and things seemed to be good again.

They standardized the Church.

However, Dr B’s theory is that this should have been a temporary measure.  At some point, when the Church regained it’s footing, it should have gone back to a communal sharing of spiritual gifts. But it never did. And we’ve been operating in a “sick church” model ever since.

In spite of several reform movements, the Church has continued to operate under some pretty simple guidelines.  There is a man (or woman) at the front of the church that leads the service through its many phases. There is a singer, or group of singers, that “perform.” Congregants sit in pews (or chairs), face the nice man (or woman) up front, and listen appreciatively to the singers.  We’ve gone from cathedrals to churches to chapels to strip malls to store fronts to home churches to movie theaters, (we’ve even added coffee shops) but they all have this same end result: they cling to the “sick church” model because it is familiar and….well…easy.  Standardization always is.

As I said, I was a  Christian Servicemen’s Center Director.  And this is exactly what I did. I am ashamed to admit it all these years later. I didn’t really know how to break that cycle. And if there was ever a place where it could have been broken, RAF Mildenhall was it.

I said all of this to emphasize the point you made about school reform. We’ve gone through all types of pedagogical changes. We’ve bought books and watched videos (including yours). We’ve adopted Problem Based learning, Project Based Learning, and every other kind of Based Learning you can think of. We’ve emphasized STEM and STEAM and STREAM and more. We’ve tried college ready, career ready, and college AND career ready.

And yet, by and large, our classrooms are still made up of a teacher at the front of the room with students gazing upon their bountiful knowledge from nice, neat rows of desks (or circles or squares or whatever else we have room to try), and we feed them what we’re told they are supposed to learn and test them the way we are told to test them. And we’re not making much headway because we have this “sick school” model with which our systems have grown comfortable.  We’ve even standardized the way we evaluate success by trying to quantify teacher effectiveness.

I have often complained about district policies or state policies or federal policies that hold us back from doing the things we know work. Things that bring out the natural curiosity in our students. Things that ignite the spark of desire. Things that make light bulbs light up over the tops of our students’ heads.

But today, you said something profound for me. I even tweeted it:

This is a model espoused by my principal, Becky Ashe. She may not say it in these words, but she believes it with all her heart. It is partly why I drive 90 miles to work every day. She believes it. She lives it. She leads it. And our school, our kids, our teachers, and our district are the better for it. And yes, I am better for it.

You’d like her. I hope she gets to meet you one day soon. Oh, and she also has a really good TEDx Talk you might enjoy. You can find it here.

Anyway, it was great just hanging out with you. I thought I would feel really nervous being in the presence of such educational and Internet royalty. But you put us all at ease right up front. And that, in my mind, may have been your highest achievement.

Sincerely,

Me

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Mar-10-2017

Nobody Asked Me, But…

Posted by Tim under Personal

I know this post is a little late by modern time standards. I want to talk, again, about A Day Without A Woman.  It was two days ago.  That’s an eternity in social media.  If you are already over it and have moved on, just click on some other site that has more immediacy to it.

Still here? OK.

First off, let me say that I believe strongly in equal rights for all regardless of sex, ethnicity, religion, race, gender, etc.  I do have a few limits to that belief, so perhaps it isn’t totally true. But that’s another discussion. I think International Women’s Day is a great time for us all to realize the importance of women in our society, and to reflect on what equality truly should look like in it.  I’m happy to support March as Women’s Appreciation Month. (Why do I always feel I have to start with a disclaimer? No idea).

I’ve been married twice. I’ve been divorced twice. In my marriages, for some reason, I wound up taking many of those traditionally female roles. When my daughters were young, I ironed their clothes, got them dressed, and fed them breakfast as part of getting them ready for school. In my last marriage, my wife made twice as much (more like three times as much at times) money as I did, worked longer hours, had more responsibilities that kept her away from the home, and still had time to be a great wife, mother, budgeter, and checkbook balancer.

I say all of that to say, yes, I am a male chauvinist about some things, but I fall far shy of being a pig. I’m also empathetic towards the plight of women in the world and attempt to support their equality in small ways that I can do on a daily basis. And I’m a bit of a curmudgeon.

I have been thinking about A Day Without A Woman, and decided to blog about it not from the perspective of a man (although I’m sure it’s in there somewhere). I want to talk about it from the perspective of a school administrator doing a teacher observation.

With that in mind, let’s start with the reinforcement areas. In teacher-speak, that means the things that appeared to go well.

  • Getting the word out – It appears that nearly everyone knew that March 8 was A Day Without A Woman Day. Some within my own circle of influence were not aware that this was part of a larger experience called the International Women’s Day (and that included women). But, it got pretty good news coverage, and that coverage was mostly positive.
  • Being inclusive – One of the complaints about the International Women’s Day in general is that it is mostly the work of women who identify themselves as Liberal or on the Left. That is not always the case, but it is the perception. For this event, there seemed to be a push for all women, regardless of political views, to participate. Kudos.

Then come those pesky areas of refinement. Again, this is teacher-speak for the areas that could have gone better, or flat-out failed.

  • From my perspective, there was no adequate alternative plan. Obviously, not every woman can take the day off and leave their workforce hanging. Small businesses depend on revenues every single day just to survive. Emergency services still have to operate. Teachers are still expected to teach.
    • One alternative was to shop at women-owned businesses, or businesses run by women. Great idea.  Who are they? I would have shopped there as a man just to support them. I would shop there more often. But I have no idea who they are in my area.
    • Another alternative was to wear red.  Really? A strong statement of equality comes from a fashion accessory? How many people even knew that red scarf or blouse or pair of shoes meant “I wish I could have taken off work, but I’m still standing with others”?
    • I wish more emphasis had been placed on getting women from all walks of life to email or call their legislators.  I know some did this, but it wasn’t evident to me as an observer that it was the larger push.
  • One of the things we look for with assessments in the classroom are the end results.  You gave a test.  Great.  What happened? With the Women’s March after the Inauguration, the results were immediate. They were visceral. Women all over the world, not just in DC, marched in solidarity. Seeing nearly half a million women in DC was a powerful visual on the news. Seeing that repeated in cities all across the country and in other nations was also fantastic.  A Day Without A Woman was very hard to gauge for success. Here are the questions I would ask as an evaluator in the classroom:
    • How many women stayed home?  There is nothing in your data that tells me how widespread this action was.
    • What differences did you see between blue cities and red rural areas?
    • Did you get involvement from women who would not ordinarily support this cause? In other words, to use Seth Godin’s phrase, how has your idea spread?
    • In women-owned or women-run businesses, did they see a significant increase in sales that day? To my mind, and I have said this before, it appeared to be more of a “no one buy gas on  Tuesday” kind of protest. One day isn’t even going to register as a blip on the revenue screen. Do you have evidence that this worked better than everyone jumping up and down all at once in the Western hemisphere in order to get the earth off its orbit?
    • After what appeared to be such a rousing success with the march, this appeared to be an action taken because women were tired of doing real protests. More like “calling it in” than actually promoting change. Show me evidence that would tell me I am way off base.

The other thing that happens in a post-conference (usually at the beginning for me) is a simple question set: How do you think it went? What worked? What would you change if you did this again in the future?

I could go on, but this post is far too long already. Feel free to comment either agreement or something that tells me I’m just an old fuddy duddy man who doesn’t understand a thing about women or women’s rights.  Just keep them calm and persuasive.  I would love for this action to have shown more impact than it did.  Truly I would have. I know we can’t knock it out of the park every time we plan an activity.

Nobody asked me, but I decided to share my opinion anyway. If you made it this far, thank you.

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Mar-9-2017

Here’s Hoping For More

Posted by Tim under Personal

Yesterday was International Women’s Day.  To my surprise, a few people seem not to know anything about this day, its history, or its significance. You can catch up on some reading here.  (No, Wikipedia is not Wikileaks).

To sum it up, it started in 1909, and was officially listed as a “day” in about 1914. Begun by the Socialist Party, the day was offered as a way to emphasize the importance of women in society.  The right to vote was a priority for the movement.  In 1917, women helped bring down the government of Russia with their efforts on this day (although it was on March 8 in the Gregorian calendar…which was in February for the rest of us).

Like Christians taking pagan holidays and making them religious (Christmas, Easter, etc), I don’t lend any credence to an argument that International Women’s Day is a socialist movement attempting to overthrow democracy.  It has morphed since that time, and, in my mind, probably become so diluted as to be nearly meaningless on the world stage.  (But that’s just me).

Yesterday, I posted a question, a very poorly worded question, to teachers on Facebook about involvement in the Day Without a Woman strike. A small handful of school districts across the country were closed yesterday because such a large part of their teachers and substitute teachers were not coming to work. The numbers were small, but I still found it significant. And so I asked a simple question: at what point do teachers decide they cannot participate in such protest activities because the livelihood of children often depend on the schools being open.

What I found was intriguing to me. And here are my takeaways from that conversation:

  • First, not all women even know about International Women’s Day, let alone A Day Without A Woman.  No, this did not come up in my discussion, but from reading through posts of other teachers who are women. I found that to be quite sad. I am a believer in equal rights for all, and a day with this kind of historical significance should be known, especially by those who it seeks to empower.
  • Second, not all women agree with the strike movement. I haven’t done a geographic detail of who responded, so I don’t know if it is mostly based on the local culture or not. I’m in a Right to Work state, so strikes in the public sector are not allowed. We have found other ways to make our voices heard.  Regardless, the small group discussion on my post appeared to be about half the women in favor of the protest (and participating in some way) and half thought it more important to make sure they showed up at school (some wore red to participate while others did not participate at all).
  • Third, the disagreement on staying out of work as teachers was not divided down Liberal/Conservative lines.  That surprised me slightly. International Women’s Day is, in large part, a Liberal women’s movement, as was the march in DC recently. And yet, several thought this was not the protest for them.
  • Fourth, while men participated in the conversation, our voices were sometimes politely rebuked because we can’t possibly know what it means to be a woman in America…or the world. True. But I was extremely happy to see that men were not attacked. I wasn’t really sure how that was going to go. The only thread I had to delete (so far) was between two men, so there’s that.
  • Last, the discussion renewed my faith in  Facebook as a platform for social discussion. People made their points, some more forcefully than others, but everyone seemed to truly read the comments before posting a response. And, if they mistook someone’s meaning, the listened when clarifications were posted. That meant more dialogue and no shouting or anger. It doesn’t happen as often as I would like on social media, but it does happen.

I’ll save my personal thoughts on International Women’s Day for another post. Not that the thoughts of a white male administrator are going to carry much weight. But it’s my blog and I’ll post if I want to (or however that song goes).

The one thing that I will say is this: It is crucial that those who govern, as well as those who lead, represent all of the people of this great country. We will not survive if we maintain the status quo of white male administrators having control of the government, the businesses, the stock market, the school systems, and more. Days like the International Women’s Day can help. It has helped in the past. It can help again.

Here’s hoping for more.

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